A bowl of comfort

A bowl of comfort

A simple meal for days when everything feels heavy

There are days when I don’t want to think about food.
I don’t want to plan, optimize, or improve anything.

I just want something warm.
Simple.
Comforting.

On days like this, I make what we call tejbegríz in Hungary — a soft, creamy semolina porridge that feels like being taken care of.

It’s not fancy.
It’s not trendy.
But it’s grounding in a way few foods are.


Why this bowl matters to me

This is the kind of meal I make when:

  • my mind feels tired
  • my nervous system needs calming
  • I don’t want another decision

It’s gentle.
Predictable.
And it asks nothing from me.

Sometimes that’s exactly what helps.


What you’ll need

  • 1 liter milk (any kind that feels right for you)
  • 6–7 tablespoons semolina
  • a pinch of salt
  • optional: a few drops of vanilla extract

(Semolina is widely available in many countries — often labeled simply as “semolina” or “fine semolina.” If you can’t find it, similar wheat porridges can work too.)


How I make it

I’ve learned that adding the semolina to cold milk makes a big difference — it helps prevent lumps and keeps everything smooth.

  1. I add the semolina to the cold milk and stir it in gently.
  2. I add a pinch of salt.
  3. While stirring continuously, I slowly heat the mixture.
  4. Once it comes to a boil, I keep cooking it for another 1–2 minutes, still stirring, until it reaches a soft, creamy consistency.
  5. When it’s ready, I sweeten it to taste — sometimes with sugar, sometimes with a sweetener, depending on what feels right.

This amount is usually enough for about 4 servings.

No rushing.
No perfection.
Just staying present while it thickens.


A little childhood touch

When we were kids, we almost always added something on top.

Sometimes it was a light sprinkle of cocoa powder.
Other times cinnamon sugar — simple, warm, familiar.

Even now, adding one of these feels like a small moment of comfort from the past.
Nothing fancy.
Just something that makes it feel a little more like home.


A gentle reminder

Not every meal has to be optimal.
Not every choice has to be intentional.

Some days, comfort is care.

And if this bowl gives you a few quiet minutes of warmth —
that’s already enough.

Some days don’t need solutions — they just need comfort.